So a friend cut me off recently. After sending a nasty message. I apologised if I had done or said anything to upset her but she continued to say she was cutting contact. I left it a while and contacted her again and said it’s a shame and can’t we discuss and sort it out. Reply was - I am ending this conversation.
It was a bit of a shock. She had always had an abrupt manner at times but been thoughtful and helpful at other times. When she was abrupt she was positively rude but I knew her personality.
But ouch. You feel like you’ve lost loyalty.
And yes you can say - you don’t need friends like that - and it’s true. And I guessed one day something like that might happen. I seemed to be the one that calmed her down with reason wheh she was angry about other things or people. Suddenly I was the target.
It’s made me feel a bit sad as we chatted a lot so it’s left a gap. And you take it personally and think - I thought this friend admired and respected me. So then you feel like there’s something wrong with you (which is irrational).
Later I thought - why bother? If she really wanted to cut contact - why not just go quiet and actually do it without saying anything? People do go quiet sometimes or drift away. Why send me a nasty message telling me she was going to cut contact.?
It was a bit of a shock. She had always had an abrupt manner at times but been thoughtful and helpful at other times. When she was abrupt she was positively rude but I knew her personality.
But ouch. You feel like you’ve lost loyalty.
And yes you can say - you don’t need friends like that - and it’s true. And I guessed one day something like that might happen. I seemed to be the one that calmed her down with reason wheh she was angry about other things or people. Suddenly I was the target.
It’s made me feel a bit sad as we chatted a lot so it’s left a gap. And you take it personally and think - I thought this friend admired and respected me. So then you feel like there’s something wrong with you (which is irrational).
Later I thought - why bother? If she really wanted to cut contact - why not just go quiet and actually do it without saying anything? People do go quiet sometimes or drift away. Why send me a nasty message telling me she was going to cut contact.?
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