Noodle
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So H has been receiving some extremely unsavoury texts from his son.
H had been texting very kind messages to Ss for the past few months trying to encourage a visit and dome bond time between them. H has received absolutely nothing in return from SS except abuse. Ss states his father changed as soon as he met me. Ss was 6 when H met me! So you can see where he gets that little gem from.
It has come to a head this week.
SD planning to come and visit us in the new year. Ss Absolutely not interested, in fact quite the opposite.
H has been ill recently and SS texts H, "go and die" also THE most disgusting swear words you can imagine being directed towards H and i guess me too but ive only been told about the texts, i havent seen them.
So needless to say H is at the end of his tether with this kind of behaviour. He lost his temper and spouted abuse back at SS. (This goes against my advice)
Next day EFH is emailing more abuse. Name calling and " leave my son alone, you 2 are vile!!!"
Nothing to do with me just to add..
Then SD ( who is apparently in the same room as SS and possibly EFH is watching the entertainment show too,) gets involved and H who is utterly pissed off starts having a go at her too. I mean the things he said are correct.
He said she should have apologised to me by now for the nasty lengthy text messages she sent me last year. Also that the only reason she is coming is because I arranged it. SD states, she had intended on sorting things out with me once she was here. She says she was coming here with an open mind.
Now this is all well and good but, i cant help but feel like she thinks shes doing me some kind of favour by gracing us with her presence?
She states to H, I should have met her halfway along the line? How is this so?
H points out that I was the one who ( broke the silence between H and his family) wrote the email to EFH to try to smooth things over with Skids in the first place, in order to get SD out for a visit and then further points out that as a result of my kind, forgiving, apologetic email to EFH i got a shit load of verbal abuse in a responding email accusing me of "abusing" the stepkids! Horrific!
SD questions, "what abuse" H tells her that her mother is a nasty bitch!
I dont know any more about that conversation this is all from H who deals with these matters whilst Im at work.
So basically SD now doesnt know if she wants to come at all.
H who goes about everything in the wrong way wants nothing more to do with his son. To be honest I dont blame him i have told him to leave it alone its not working for anyone at the moment.
H says if SD doesnt make her mind up whether she wants to come or not he will cancel her flight.
H says he thinks hes better off without them in his life because the whole thing feels uncomfortable and that some things are not meant to be?
This is all very sad. What we would like is a quiet amicable life. With Hs kids feeling they have a place in our home any time they like but its impossible with EFH constantly dripping poison in their ears.
I also think she is a very bad parent for allowing SS to say such disgusting things to his father in text messages which she has obviously seen and probably finds funny.
![Face with rolling eyes :rolling_eyes: 🙄](https://cdn.jsdelivr.net/joypixels/assets/8.0/png/unicode/64/1f644.png)
H had been texting very kind messages to Ss for the past few months trying to encourage a visit and dome bond time between them. H has received absolutely nothing in return from SS except abuse. Ss states his father changed as soon as he met me. Ss was 6 when H met me! So you can see where he gets that little gem from.
It has come to a head this week.
SD planning to come and visit us in the new year. Ss Absolutely not interested, in fact quite the opposite.
H has been ill recently and SS texts H, "go and die" also THE most disgusting swear words you can imagine being directed towards H and i guess me too but ive only been told about the texts, i havent seen them.
So needless to say H is at the end of his tether with this kind of behaviour. He lost his temper and spouted abuse back at SS. (This goes against my advice)
Next day EFH is emailing more abuse. Name calling and " leave my son alone, you 2 are vile!!!"
Nothing to do with me just to add..
Then SD ( who is apparently in the same room as SS and possibly EFH is watching the entertainment show too,) gets involved and H who is utterly pissed off starts having a go at her too. I mean the things he said are correct.
He said she should have apologised to me by now for the nasty lengthy text messages she sent me last year. Also that the only reason she is coming is because I arranged it. SD states, she had intended on sorting things out with me once she was here. She says she was coming here with an open mind.
Now this is all well and good but, i cant help but feel like she thinks shes doing me some kind of favour by gracing us with her presence?
She states to H, I should have met her halfway along the line? How is this so?
H points out that I was the one who ( broke the silence between H and his family) wrote the email to EFH to try to smooth things over with Skids in the first place, in order to get SD out for a visit and then further points out that as a result of my kind, forgiving, apologetic email to EFH i got a shit load of verbal abuse in a responding email accusing me of "abusing" the stepkids! Horrific!
SD questions, "what abuse" H tells her that her mother is a nasty bitch!
I dont know any more about that conversation this is all from H who deals with these matters whilst Im at work.
So basically SD now doesnt know if she wants to come at all.
H who goes about everything in the wrong way wants nothing more to do with his son. To be honest I dont blame him i have told him to leave it alone its not working for anyone at the moment.
H says if SD doesnt make her mind up whether she wants to come or not he will cancel her flight.
H says he thinks hes better off without them in his life because the whole thing feels uncomfortable and that some things are not meant to be?
This is all very sad. What we would like is a quiet amicable life. With Hs kids feeling they have a place in our home any time they like but its impossible with EFH constantly dripping poison in their ears.
I also think she is a very bad parent for allowing SS to say such disgusting things to his father in text messages which she has obviously seen and probably finds funny.
![Face with rolling eyes :rolling_eyes: 🙄](https://cdn.jsdelivr.net/joypixels/assets/8.0/png/unicode/64/1f644.png)