I haven’t noticed these new posts.
This is a topic close to me. I have both of my parents still with me, but my relationship with my father is long distance and has been for decades. He comes over. I can’t just get up visit him, I have to take care of my business here.
My mother lives in the same city as myself, but we are not that close and I hardly see my sister and nieces.
So as far as my family goes, I feel alone and abandoned quite often. I am not saying it is all their fault, it is just a feeling I have.
I’ve been diagnosed with asthma, before COPD and had issues with breathing and desaturation and my recovery is slower than I expected.
I get depressed more often and lately have been having anxiety attacks, especially regarding work.
I work with a friend my age, she is standing in until my EDD returns from maternity leave.
Just yesterday she cried in the office from overload - stress and H calmed her down. She work for us only part time and has started working for another company. She said it is too much for her.
She blames everything on me, any difficulties, even issues with internet and phones, we had a storm and something was damaged. The repair and response was too long.
I haven’t been so stressed in a long time, so I wonder if it can be transferred from others to me. Now that I am more clear on what is going on with others, I am slowly realizing it is not my stress only, but I am affected by others too. But as the boss, I have to keep it together and be positive.
That is sometimes very difficult to do and it is getting more difficult as time passes.
The friend is difficult and doesn’t have a filter. She can turn the environment into a highly stressful place and I can’t stand it so I avoid it. I think everyone does.
We have 2 and a half more months to go with her and she does the job, so I cannot label her as a complete negative.
She has an idea how things should be run and tries by force to run it her way, to which I objected in part, but some of her approaches were good and we adopted them.
The difficult part of this is, she prepares something, I am talking about reports and never even runs the ideas by me. She than says you have it all on the server under… and that’s it for her.
It turned out we didn’t use it and I told her why. Her answer was, it has been there for two months and by now you should know about it. I have worked so hard on it and you have no appreciation for me.
I didn’t know. I have other things to do and because of all these issues I have difficulty focusing on the business.
And than to top it off, she tells me it is my duty to enforce her ideas.
I think she forgets who actually runs the company and my priorities are in optimization and sales. Without sales and quick responses there is no business to run and I am the only one doing it right now and it is difficult for me.
Instead of supporting, she just makes things worse.
I considered letting her go, but we honestly can’t manage without her right now, with a bit more than 2 months to go.
My point is, I feel very lonely in this situation. Can’t really talk about it to H as we are both in a similar situation and yet very different and he has a better relationship with her, but knows she is difficult.
I have friends who are mostly older than me and retired or busy with their own issues.
I do have a councilor, but he is away at the moment, his son has a heart condition and had a difficult operation. - considering his situation, mine is really minor.
He helps with life and business decisions, he is a coach and himself a businessman and his advice or just having someone to listen to me is very helpful.
I prefer an outsider to friends or family, because I never know who will use it to their advantage, or simply say, you should look at what you are doing wrong, because my mother has a high opinion of her and others have absolutely no interest.
In that sense I feel very alone.
But recently I have read that having just a few people around is not so bad, I know good friends are hard to find and I only have very few. I know people and we are friendly, but there is a big difference.
I have also realized that being too closed off with no friends is not a good idea. We can become too dependent on people we live with and when things are stressful, we have no escape and we need someone, something to vent and change the scenery.
