So for some time now I have been nameless. People just talk "at" me. When SS was younger we had a pet name/nickname he called me. I liked it - it made me a significant adult in his life and not just another adult. EFH kept trying to get him to call me by my first name after a while and I was adamant to OH and SS I didn't want that as it seemed disrespectful when SS was a child and I was an adult. So my nickname carried on although it had been instilled in SS that it was "babyish". It isn't babyish at all. I called my Grandma "Nana" all her life - it's who she was to me.
The result has been that for the last year or so (SS is now a teenager) he has not actually called me anything! OH also avoids calling me anything in front of SS. So people talk "at" me. And that familiarity of naming is gone.
I'm not sure what to do now - the other day SS said my actual name while trying to convey something quickly. And immediately stopped partway through. So I said it's ok you can call me by my name if you want to. But I don't think he's comfortable with it either. It's very weird. It's like suddenly I'm not a family member any more if called by my first name.
Any suggestions?
The result has been that for the last year or so (SS is now a teenager) he has not actually called me anything! OH also avoids calling me anything in front of SS. So people talk "at" me. And that familiarity of naming is gone.
I'm not sure what to do now - the other day SS said my actual name while trying to convey something quickly. And immediately stopped partway through. So I said it's ok you can call me by my name if you want to. But I don't think he's comfortable with it either. It's very weird. It's like suddenly I'm not a family member any more if called by my first name.
Any suggestions?