I had the same experience with SSs and my DDs. I have to keep calm, be curious rather than disagreeable and take into account that sometimes they will stay moody, they might think they know everything and the last label I got was “older generation, well meaning, but cannot understand the new world”.
I was upset and had to hide it, because we went out for dinner with our entire family.
It was YSS who came here from Switzerland and the last thing I wanted to do was go further on the topic. It was pointless.
It bothered me for a day and a half, then I just forgot.
All I saw was my uptight face on the pictures we took.
What I am trying to say is that teens are a challenge, even after they reach their 20’s, they are still way too “smart” for us old fashioned people. In their 30s, real life and responsibilities come up and they reconnect on a different level, needing support and a friendly face to talk to.
Things change all the time.