Hi. We had a great holiday and it's been busy ever since and there has been some progress. Firstly, while we were away we did get chance to talk a bit now and then but mainly just had a lot of fun. The kids were great. We had one interruption which was phone calls to his ex but it wasn't a big deal.
So he knows I want to have children and says he wants to have children with me too. I said I don't want to be an unmarried Mother - but we can't get married until you're divorced and asked where things were at. He admitted he'd been letting things slide and is going to see a solicitor to try and get things moving. I said I know he's scared of rocking the boat and the ex being difficult about him seeing the children but we can deal with that if it happens and I will support him if he has to apply to court. He doesn't think she would stop him seeing the children, but just says he has this fear of rocking the boat with her generally - in case it affects the kids if she gets angry or upset.
So we have a date to aim for. He and the kids are going to move in with me. It will be cramped and need a lot of rearranging but should be ok and he'll have more money as not paying rent. It will need bunk beds and the kids sharing a room. He's already told the ex this and no fireworks as yet. We think she may see the reality of things if we are living together and accept he wants to finalise the divorce. The aim is to get the divorce through before next summer and then get our own place together and get married.
So he knows I want to have children and says he wants to have children with me too. I said I don't want to be an unmarried Mother - but we can't get married until you're divorced and asked where things were at. He admitted he'd been letting things slide and is going to see a solicitor to try and get things moving. I said I know he's scared of rocking the boat and the ex being difficult about him seeing the children but we can deal with that if it happens and I will support him if he has to apply to court. He doesn't think she would stop him seeing the children, but just says he has this fear of rocking the boat with her generally - in case it affects the kids if she gets angry or upset.
So we have a date to aim for. He and the kids are going to move in with me. It will be cramped and need a lot of rearranging but should be ok and he'll have more money as not paying rent. It will need bunk beds and the kids sharing a room. He's already told the ex this and no fireworks as yet. We think she may see the reality of things if we are living together and accept he wants to finalise the divorce. The aim is to get the divorce through before next summer and then get our own place together and get married.
