Holidays and teens
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Yes, but keep checking in on him. My kids were alone too, I was a single parent and there wasn’t much I could do about it. When they were smaller my mother would sleep over, but later they were alone with me and my mother checking in on them.
Frozen meals, to do list, you have so many options.
You would not be gone forever.
I remember when word got around that we were neglecting SSs, because we had a job to do and thought they were coming over for a week, but stayed for two. We couldn’t just take off from work, but we tried our best to be home soon.
ESS was almost 18 and YSS was 14. EFH used everything against us and told people we know, so I called them up and told them to bud out of our business, especially when it comes to situations they know nothing about. I wrote a polite email (that was than) to EFH and told her that if she thinks something is no right, she should call me or their father immediately and let us know, not spread lies about us. I was still on board with co-parenting which turned out to be impossible.
You don’t have that problem and when I was young I went with friends on vacation without parents. I wouldn’t push for it, because I know what we got up to, but no harm done.
At one point they go on their own, some sooner, some later and all we can do is support them them, keep in touch, invite them over and what I did when YDD left at 19, I told her that she has her room to come back to if anything goes wrong. We also supported her financially and asked about exams. That was more difficult from a distance and she lost two years, but when she moved in with highly motivated girlfriends, everything changed for the better.
My EDD stayed with us until she was 26 and I had to softly push her out into the world.
Same family, two very different children.
Frozen meals, to do list, you have so many options.
You would not be gone forever.
I remember when word got around that we were neglecting SSs, because we had a job to do and thought they were coming over for a week, but stayed for two. We couldn’t just take off from work, but we tried our best to be home soon.
ESS was almost 18 and YSS was 14. EFH used everything against us and told people we know, so I called them up and told them to bud out of our business, especially when it comes to situations they know nothing about. I wrote a polite email (that was than) to EFH and told her that if she thinks something is no right, she should call me or their father immediately and let us know, not spread lies about us. I was still on board with co-parenting which turned out to be impossible.
You don’t have that problem and when I was young I went with friends on vacation without parents. I wouldn’t push for it, because I know what we got up to, but no harm done.
At one point they go on their own, some sooner, some later and all we can do is support them them, keep in touch, invite them over and what I did when YDD left at 19, I told her that she has her room to come back to if anything goes wrong. We also supported her financially and asked about exams. That was more difficult from a distance and she lost two years, but when she moved in with highly motivated girlfriends, everything changed for the better.
My EDD stayed with us until she was 26 and I had to softly push her out into the world.
Same family, two very different children.
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